~ Never feel that you have to explain yourself. Your life and your journey is uniquely your own ~ talkswitheve
Stop explaining yourself. Why? You are a unique individual. Therefore you have unique thoughts, so trying to explain yourself may just be, as the saying goes, a lost cause.
Your way of thinking – of doing – is unique to you. Getting someone to understand could be a frustrating endeavor as it may take time and patience, both of which you may not have the energy (or inclination) to spend.
Why can’t you be more like your brother (or sister)? I am sure that for many of you this question has been asked of you by your parents. I know my parents did.
As the younger of two, I was expected to do like my brother when he seemed to have followed what was expected of him by our parents. I say “seemed” because we all know how to appear as if we are following the rules when in fact we are not. Or is that only me? My parents were not open to my explanation of the things I preferred to do. I think that goes for any parent/child relationship.
Why explain yourself
Why explain yourself? Is it about maintaining the status quo?
We never want anyone to think any less of us. Or is it about validation from others?
Whatever your reason(s) might be find a way to stop explaining yourself. It is difficult to explain yourself to another when the perspective of each of us regarding reality varies by individual. Remember we are all unique individuals.
Also, most people only hear what they want to hear – or they hear only what they understand as it relates to their own life experience.
Stop explaining yourself
In order to stop explaining yourself you have to understand why you feel the need to explain yourself. The reasons of course will be different for each person.
Loss of trust in yourself is one of three reasons given in this article but there are as many reasons as there are people in the world!
It has only been in the last six years that I have accepted that “No.” is a complete sentence.
When I first said no by itself, I remember holding my breath after. I was waiting on the response I expected since I did not follow it up with an explanation as per usual. The expected response never came.
I found that the more I said no as a complete sentence, the more comfortable I got in leaving it as is without any explanation. I realized that it really did not appear to bother others and I had been stressing out myself unnecessarily – for years!
Whether you are explaining yourself, or over-explaining (you know, that long and unnecessary explanation), the time to stop explaining yourself is NOW!
Value your own thoughts. Value your own decisions. Value YOU.
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